• Jessica

Girls Guide To Loving Yourself First

Loving yourself - a foreign concept to most of us. It seems that loving yourself these days just gets harder and harder. There are more things to compare yourself to, new ways to think that you aren't good enough, and more insecurities than we can count.

You will always hear people tell you that you have to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. Time and time again, people will tell you that you need to be happy with who you are. For some reason, we have transitioned into these crazy, society absorbed, women that care more about what we see on Instagram and holding ourselves to these unrealistic standards.

We talk and talk about empowering women but really in a way - we are far from empowered by successful women and instead intimidated and depressed our life isn't the same. The KEY to this though is that you can be whoever you want to be, but you have to work for it. There are so many factors not pictured in a seemingly perfect life that doesn't cross your mind. Not to mention, we are all different and no one the same - which translates to life! No life is lived the same and everyone has different opportunities in life.

STEP 1: embrace what makes you, you

We all have insecurities and dislike things about ourselves, but don't lose yourself trying to be someone else. Find qualities you love, find reasons to love this place in life you are in, and find ways to be unique. Fall in love with the things that make you irreplaceable.


Stop focusing on everyone around you, stop living through these Instagram influencers that live unrealistic lives, and stop looking at other women wishing you could be them. Focus on making you the best version of yourself. Focus on living a life you are happy with. Focus on achieving your goals, whether career wise or physically in the gym. FOCUS ON YOU.

STEP 3: quit comparing yourself

Stop doing it. Maybe you think your boobs are too small, your butt too big, your stomach could be flatter, your hair could be less frizzy, the list goes on. Rock the body you have, show off the mind you have, and let yourself out of the cage you put yourself into. BE YOU! Don't be anyone else.


Often we have to remember that we are priceless. You have to remind yourself that you are worth much more than what you think of yourself. Time and time again, we knock ourselves down by seeing the world around us, other women around us, and not being who we want to be. You have to take time to recognize your worth, realize how special you are, and be who YOU WERE MADE TO BE.


It is so easy to get knocked down, to feel worthless, to feel like you aren't enough, like your body isn't perfect. There are so many little things people can say or do to make us feel like we aren't good enough. YOU are the only one who can decide if you are good enough. The only person you need to be good enough for is YOURSELF. When you turn your purpose into making yourself what others want you to be, you lose yourself.


TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Take time to be alone. Make yourself feel good, get your nails done - go to the spa - do your hair - throw on some makeup and make sure that you are getting the self care you need to be happy. Don't get stuck in a never ending cycle of life that doesn't allow you time to breathe. GET OUT, get away from people, and just relax.

Take these 6 steps as a start to refresh your mindset. To find your worth again - to LOVE yourself again - and to separate happiness for others and resentment that you aren't someone else. Find the beauty in who you are and learn that there is no one like you. You are unique in both the beauty you hold on the inside and outside. Women are fierce warriors and we are far better empowering each other than resenting others for being in a different place than us. Find that place you want to be in and WORK FOR IT. You will get there - you will transform a million times along the way.

If you take one thing away from this, YOU ARE A QUEEN! Never think less of yourself.

Until next time,

Your Sunflower