MY SECRET TO LOVING IN AN UNLOVING WORLD
Updated: Jul 12, 2020
Kindness. Compassion. Unconditional Love. Selflessness. Caring.
All these words are traits that have become lost in our society. Our world is cold, rude, self absorbed, heartless, and unloving. BUT, there are some who remain warm hearted and loving through it all. I see it too often that friends and people I pass by are frustrated with themselves and others in the world around them. There is too much negativity and too many people becoming depressed and sad because of the life they live.
I strive to be the best I can, but I’m not perfect. I always say these parts of me that love too much, feel for people I don’t even know, and care for people I meet for 2 minutes are both a blessing and a curse. When it comes down to it though, it is the biggest blessing in my life and I only wish to be MORE loving, MORE caring, MORE of an example, and make MORE of an impact with people through my kindness, my happiness, and my love.
It is often forgotten that the way we make people feel is unmatched. It is also so often spoken that people may not remember the words you say, but they remember how you made them feel. If there is ONE THING to take from this post is that people will remember if you made them smile or made them feel a bit of joy even on their darkest days. The truth is, with the world around us, people have become experts at hiding what they are going through, how they are feeling, and how much they may need help or a bit of love.
I firmly stand by and always tell people, speak positivity. Speak words of kindness and of love. Try not to judge because speaking those words into someone is speaking those words into existence. Don’t get me wrong though, we are all flawed in the sense that our minds sometimes automatically judge and stereotype others. It is how we work and what we know because it is what everyone around us does. It has become second nature to assume things about the people we see.
Here are a few tips to changing your perspective:
START WITH YOURSELF
You can’t preach self-love without knowing how to love yourself. You can’t speak positivity if you drown yourself in negative thoughts. Start with you and your life. Quit limiting yourself, quit focusing on bad thoughts, and quit bringing yourself down. You have to lift yourself before you can lift others. Don’t get me wrong, you can’t be happy and positive 24/7, but you can make a shift in finding your own happiness and creating a new perspective to see the world around you.
Stop with the negative comments, quit hating on other people, and quit looking for anything that is wrong. STARTlooking for the good in others. The beautiful things that make someone or something unique. The possibilities in life. Don’t assume someone is going to mess up, or assume that someone is going to fail. Speak positivity into them! Whether it is a compliment on how they look or how they handle a situation.
FIND HAPPINESS IN LITTLE THINGS
Don’t get consumed by everything that is going wrong. Turn your attention to the things that are going right, to the amazing people in your life, and to the possibilities that lie ahead. Find a reason to smile. Maybe you don’t have your dream job yet, maybe your crush doesn’t like you, maybe you’re not doing too well in that difficult class this semester.
Turn your thoughts to the journey you are on toward your dream job. Turn your thoughts to the people that are in your life and love you. Turn your thoughts to the realization that this class won’t last forever.
SEE THE GOOD IN OTHERS
This can be difficult at times. Work towards being less judgmental. Look for the beauty in someone. Find the good in others. We often like to pick out traits to use against someone. We like to use flaws we see and judge based off of the top layer someone shows.
Looking for good in others shows them that they aren’t what people say they are. It shows them that they can be themselves and that someone believes in them. Be the 1 in 10 to show someone that they are loved. Be the 1 in 10 to show someone they aren’t what society has defined them to be.
These are just a few ways to start seeing life differently. Now, no one is perfect and no one can think this way every second of every day. What’s important is that you strive to choose good over bad. When you begin to choose positivity more often and change how you see things, your life will start to reflect that.
Until Next Time,